The holiday season often combines positive moments with distinct stressors. Family expectations, political disagreements and the added costs of celebrations can interact and make the period especially demanding for many individuals, even when they aim to rest.
Jason Moser, a clinical psychologist and professor at Michigan State University who directs the Clinical Psychophysiology Lab and serves as an associate dean of research, describes why these pressures build. He notes that the interaction of emotional expectations, contested topics and financial strain raises tensions at gatherings.
Moser offers two practical suggestions. First, take a few minutes of quiet reflection to identify the sources of stress and to decide how to respond without escalating conflict. Second, discard stress-management tools that clearly do not work and replace them with simpler, realistic approaches that people can actually use during the holidays.
The piece noting these tips appeared on Futurity.
Difficult words
- stressor — a situation that causes mental pressurestressors
- expectation — a belief about what should happenexpectations
- contested — disputed or argued about by people
- financial strain — money problems that cause pressure
- escalate — to become more serious or intenseescalating
- discard — to throw away or stop using
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Discussion questions
- Which simple stress-management approaches could be realistic and usable during a busy holiday for you? Give examples.
- How can financial strain change the atmosphere at family gatherings, and what practical steps might reduce that pressure?
- When family conversations become contested, what strategies could people use to avoid escalating conflict while still speaking honestly?
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